Helping Starts with Understanding
We all know that helping starts with understanding. We hope that you will begin by learning from the women who have been courageous enough to share their experiences here. Feel free to participate in the community and ask questions.
Here is some advice from our community of wives/girlfriends to get you started.
I had to stop going to my therapist because he just wasn't listening to me. It was like he already knew what he thought I needed and wanted to get through his lesson plan. I'm not your last 100 clients. Don't treat us like we're all the same.
The first therapist we had was all about "accept the problem" which just made me so angry. I don't want to accept it, I want to change it! I found out later that there was probably a mis-communication. Even if you are trying to use a good program that can really help, if you don't explain enough to give us the big picture, it can be very frustrating.
I have problems, but I am NOT co-dependent. Every time she used that word I felt like she was calling names and blaming me for everything.
What does the research say?
Most of us were never trained to treat problematic pornography use, so as professionals we have a lot of questions too. The information in the Questions and Answers section are based on Research and professional experience. We've included summaries of research findings and references to peer-reviewed articles and book chapters so that you can find out more about the things that are discussed in the website. You can also help other professionals by sharing information and advice on the Resources for Professionals page.
Questions from professionals
Isn't pornography healthy?
What should we call this problem? Addiction? Compulsion? Hypersexuality? Impulsivity?
What should we call this problem? Addiction? Compulsion? Hypersexuality? Impulsivity?